Are you struggling in your love relationship or want to create greater connection with your spouse or partner? Do you feel like you've fallen out of love or your relationship just doesn't seem to be as strong as you'd like? The good news is that although love may feel illogical, random, and difficult to understand, it's not. I love Sue Johnson's words: "Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival" (Johnson, 2013). How fortunate! There is science behind love and happy relationships.


Science teaches us that happy couples have an average of 5 positive interactions for every negative interaction, while couples who are headed for divorce have only .8 happy interactions for every one negative interaction (Gottman, 1994). Science teaches us that happy couples create new experiences together, reminisce on positive memories often (Gable, Impett, Reis, & Asher, 2004), affirm each other (Drigotas, Rusbult, Wieselquist, & Whitton, 1999), and respond to each other's emotions (Johnson, 2008) -- much better than unhappy couples do. There's much more, but you'll have to come to counseling or contact me for more. Let me help you better your couple relationship and rekindle the spark! Let's talk!


Following is a list of topics I address commonly in couples counseling.  This is not a comprehensive list of all challenges I work with. If you are struggling with a specific concern that's not listed below, please reach out to me to discuss my qualifications and ability to help you. Let's talk!

Areas Commonly Addressed in Couples Counseling





Relationship dynamics


Premarital counseling◊◊◊








Difficult emotions


Rekindling love and connection






Addiction, Sex Addiction


Relational Trauma◊◊


Strength & Growth Areas◊◊◊


In couples counseling, you and your spouse or partner both come to sessions together and make goals together for counseling. In couples counseling, you can learn more about your relationship and create a happier couple relationship. For more information about me, my training, and qualifications, see my bio.


I look forward to meeting you and working with you! As you begin to assess your own relationship, use my handout to guide you. Let me help you strengthen your relationships. Do not forget to take care of yourself. Assess how you are doing with this handout. Most importantly, let's talk.


◊ I am a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT).

◊◊ I am trained by Pia Melody in Post Induction Therapy, and certified in EMDR.

◊◊◊I am a PREPARE/ENRICH Facilitator.

More About Couples Counseling


Drigotas, S.M., Rusbult, C.E., Wieselquist, J., & Whitton. S.W.  (1999) Close partner as sculptor of the ideal self: Behavioral affirmation and the michelangelo phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 77(2), 293-323.

Gable, S.L., Impett, E.A., Reis, H.T., & Asher, E.R. (2004) What do you do when things go right?: The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 87(2), 228-245.

Gottman, J. (1994). Why marriages succeed or fail: And how you can make yours last. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Johnson, S.M. (2008) Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. New York: Little, Brown and Company.

Johnson, S.M. (2013) Love sense: The revolutionary new science of romantic relationships. New York: Little, Brown and Company.

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