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Breaking the Cycle of Shame

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” ~ Brené Brown Recently, I was out to eat with a friend when her teenage daughter called several times in a row. My friend knew it was important or her daughter would not call repeatedly. She stepped away […]

The “Yes…and” Principle of Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others. — Christopher Germer I will never forget a client I saw years ago. On the surface everything seemed okay and she had checked off all the boxes of a career, marriage, family, children, etc. Yet she was struggling with PTSD, […]

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Prioritizing Your Unromantic Relationships This Valentine’s Day

“We loved with a love that was more than love.” – Edgar Allan Poe Valentine’s Day is almost here. Typically, around this time of year, we hear all about how to better our intimate relationships and focus on our lovers. While the romantic aspect is fun and super important around this time of year, I […]

Partner of a Sex Addict - Cluff Counseling

Dear Partner of a Sex Addict, I See You. Keep Going!

Every second 28,258 users are watching pornography on the Internet. And for every person in a relationship that is addicted to pornography, there is a devastated and betrayed partner. If this is you, and you feel powerless to help your partner, here are some things you can do to be supportive through your partner’s addiction […]