Are you struggling in your love relationship or want to create greater connection with your spouse or partner? Do you feel like you’ve fallen out of love or your relationship just doesn’t seem to be as strong as you’d like? The good news is that although love may feel illogical, random, and difficult to understand, it’s not. I love Sue Johnson’s words: “Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival” (Johnson, 2013).
Everyone can use help building stronger relationships. Whether you’re looking for a refresher course or suffering from trauma, here are some common things we can address together:
- Relationship dynamics
- Premarital counseling
- Difficult emotions
- Rekindling love and connection
- Sex addition
- Relational trauma
- Strength & growth areas
In couples counseling, you and your partner will come to sessions together and co-create goals for counseling. Through individual and couple homework exercises, and in-session processing, you will be able to identify your unhealthy patterns and learn how to connect in healthier ways. To gather personal histories, and discover how I can best advocate for each partner in the relationship, I may schedule a few one-on-one sessions during the course of therapy. As you begin to assess your relationship, use my handout to help you identify your couple strength and growth areas!
Science teaches us that happy couples have an average of 5 positive interactions for every negative interaction, while couples who are headed for divorce have only .8 happy interactions for every one negative interaction (Gottman, 1994). Research has found that compared to unhappy couples, happier couples create new experiences together, reminisce on positive memories often (Gable, Impett, Reis, & Asher, 2004), affirm each other (Drigotas, Rusbult, Wieselquist, & Whitton, 1999), and respond to each other’s emotions (Johnson, 2008).
I look forward to meeting and working with you in couples counseling or in a couples intensive. Let me help you create a happy couple relationship and rekindle the spark. Let’s talk! For more information about me, my training, and qualifications, see my bio.
- Drigotas, S.M., Rusbult, C.E., Wieselquist, J., & Whitton. S.W. (1999) Close partner as sculptor of the ideal self: Behavioral affirmation and the michelangelo phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 77(2), 293-323
- Gable, S.L., Impett, E.A., Reis, H.T., & Asher, E.R. (2004) What do you do when things go right?: The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events.
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 87(2), 228-245.
- Why marriages succeed or fail: And how you can make yours last. New York: Simon & Schuster.
- Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. New York: Little, Brown and Company.
- Johnson, S.M. (2013) Love sense: The revolutionary new science of romantic relationships. New York: Little, Brown and Co