When Someone Else Alters Your Reality: Gaslighting

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH Gaslighting:  The attempt of one person to overwrite another person’s reality. In 1938, Patrick Hamilton wrote a mystery thriller play called Gas Light, where a husband manipulates his adoring, trusting wife into believing she can no longer trust her own perceptions of reality. He does this by dimming the gas-powered lights in […]

The Magic of Saying No

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Whenever you say yes to something, it means you’re saying no to something else.” ~Susan Biali We all feel badly when we have to say no to something or someone.  It is so much easier to say yes when people need help–even if it comes at personal expense. Though selfless service is […]

When Your Consent is Taken Away

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” ~Martin Luther King Jr. Almost a year and a half ago, Alyssa Milano posted on Twitter: “If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write ‘me too’ as a reply to this tweet.” 24 hours later, there were more […]

The Direct Path to Happy Relationships

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Be direct. Be clear. Don’t worry about being correct. Worry about being real.” ~Jill Telford Who can relate to the episode of That 70’s Show when Jackie is trying to get Kelso to do something, so she goes radio silent and expects him to figure it out? Of course he has no […]

Avoiding the Silent Killer in Relationships

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Expectation is the root of all heartache.” ~ William Shakespeare We all have experienced disappointment in a relationship before. There are a million reasons we may be let down by our friends, family members, or romantic partners. In our most important relationships we often feel our most painful feelings. When we have […]