have your people

We All Need People; Who Are Yours?

“You must trust and believe in people or life becomes impossible.”  ~~Anton Chekhov There is a scene that has been immortalized from “Grey’s Anatomy”–do you know which one I am referring to? Two friends are seated at a bar when Cristina matter-of-factly tells Meredith that she put her name down as an emergency contact. “The […]

porn and shame

Breaking the Cycle of Shame

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” ~ Brené Brown Recently, I was out to eat with a friend when her teenage daughter called several times in a row. My friend knew it was important or her daughter would not call repeatedly. She stepped away […]

hobbies add to happiness

Hobbies Add to Our Happiness

“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” ~ Wayne Dyer Recently, I went to the funeral of my friend’s father. I have–fortunately or unfortunately–been to my fair share of funerals in my short life. They can be uplifting and inspiring, as they celebrate the whole life of the honored […]

20 min couple walks

20 Minutes to More Connection

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” ~Mignon McLoughlin Next week is Valentine’s Day–the day of love. Chocolates, roses, lingerie, jewelry, romantic candlelit dinners…you will see it all across your social media platforms. If you and your partner are in the trenches or in a season of rebuilding […]

The “Yes…and” Principle of Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others. — Christopher Germer I will never forget a client I saw years ago. On the surface everything seemed okay and she had checked off all the boxes of a career, marriage, family, children, etc. Yet she was struggling with PTSD, […]