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Category: About the therapist

THERE’S NO LIMIT TO WHAT WE CAN SET OUR MINDS TO DO!

There’s No Limit to What We Can Set Our Minds To Do!

“The best way to predict your future is to create it.” ~Abraham Lincoln Christina is one of millions who follow popular DIY accounts on Instagram and other platforms where average home spaces are transformed. At one point, it dawned on Christina that she was waiting for her husband to add accent walls, floating shelves, and

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WHEN HOLIDAYS BRING NOT-SO-JOLLY MEMORIES

When Holidays Bring Not-So-Jolly Memories

“You’re not the same. You’re not supposed to be the same. You’re supposed to be different. This isn’t something you will ever forget.” ~ Daisy Whitney Holidays are often portrayed as being joyous, holly, and jolly, but for many, it is a time of overwhelming sadness and painful reminders of past losses. For some, getting

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FINDING GRATITUDE IN HARD TIMES

Finding Gratitude in Hard Times

“Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.” –Doris Day Several years ago, I went to my friend’s parent’s home and I will never forget the experience. I knew they had struggled with unemployment and money issues for many years yet the feelings of love and warmth in that home overwhelmed me and have stuck with me

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FINDING CONNECTION THROUGH GROUPS

Finding Connection Through Groups

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” –Helen Keller This month I found the courage to do something that I have been wanting to do for a while… I started a men’s group in my private practice. In the last few years, I have realized that my clients, especially those

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5 Ways you're not facing your grief

5 Ways You’re Not Facing Your Grief

“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.” ~ E.A. Bucchianeri One day life is great, things are normal, the sun is shining and your laughter comes freely. Then, not a split second later, you are faced with a loss so deep you do not know

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MENtal health

MENtal Health: How are the Men in Your Life Doing?

This is a topic that has been on my mind for quite awhile now. As a therapist, I see many male clients in my office, most working through addictions and/or trauma. The majority of these clients have or have had mental health struggles AND have never sought support for their mental health. So, this post is directed towards the men in my readership, as well as, their partners, who may be wondering how to start the conversation to address men’s mental health.

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have your people

We All Need People; Who Are Yours?

“You must trust and believe in people or life becomes impossible.”  ~~Anton Chekhov There is a scene that has been immortalized from “Grey’s Anatomy”–do you know which one I am referring to? Two friends are seated at a bar when Cristina matter-of-factly tells Meredith that she put her name down as an emergency contact. “The

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making time for ourselves

Making Time for Ourselves

“It’s okay to take time for yourself. We give so much of ourselves to others, and we need to be fueled both physically and mentally. If we are in balance, it helps us in all our interactions.” — Faith Hill This summer, I have been taking things a little easier on myself. As you may

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porn and shame

Breaking the Cycle of Shame

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” ~ Brené Brown Recently, I was out to eat with a friend when her teenage daughter called several times in a row. My friend knew it was important or her daughter would not call repeatedly. She stepped away

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managing anger

Healthy Ways to Handle Anger

“Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers.” — Susan Mancotte What makes you angry? Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure skyrocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Regardless of what sets you off, anger is a common and

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hobbies add to happiness

Hobbies Add to Our Happiness

“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” ~ Wayne Dyer Recently, I went to the funeral of my friend’s father. I have–fortunately or unfortunately–been to my fair share of funerals in my short life. They can be uplifting and inspiring, as they celebrate the whole life of the honored

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porn affects ALL relationships

Porn: The Secret Intruder on Relationships

“When sex becomes easy to view, love becomes difficult to find.” ~Fight the New Drug There was once a Dutch biologist named Nikolaas Tinbergen who made a fascinating conclusion through a famous experiment. He created cardboard cutouts of butterflies that were attractive to their mates by color and movement. He decided to paint these cardboard

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