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conflict to connection

TRUTH: Couples Can Turn Conflict into Connection

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~ Ronald Reagan Recently, I was talking with a family member who was low-key bragging about how he and his new wife of one year “never fight.” I was a little stunned…both by this claim and

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conflict to connection

TRUTH: Couples Can Turn Conflict into Connection

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH “Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~ Ronald Reagan Recently, I was talking with a family member who was low-key bragging about how he and his new wife of one year “never fight.” I was a little stunned…both by this claim and

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Self-Care

Self-care: Is it Selfish?

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH Life can be draining. We are constantly surrounded by a barrage of common, everyday stressors like financial strain; employment, unemployment or deployment; addiction; sickness; or familial discord. If we are not careful, life’s demands can overwhelm, frustrate, or discourage us. Self-care is a tried-and-true method prescribed by therapists, and other professionals, to

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Mental Health

Taking the Stigma Out of Mental Illness

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH Do you shy away when you hear the words mental illness? For years, there has been a stigma about mental illness in our society. It was taboo–something uncommon and misunderstood; some even ventured as far as to say it was made up by the “weak” as a ploy to receive attention. However,

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Relationships

The Most Forgotten of the Human Needs

DESIGNED BY FREEPIK Have you ever experienced such pain or heartache in a relationship that you have sworn off future friendships or relationships? Has your trust or confidence in someone been shattered to the point that you never wanted to open up to anyone ever again? I think it is safe to say that all

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Searching for Fulfillment | Marriage & Family Therapist
Mental Health

Are You Searching for Fulfillment?

DESIGNED BY FREEPIK Steve Jobs once said, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” I have found that doing great work is never easy, but it is nearly always fulfilling. As a therapist for 10+ years, I can honestly say that I love my job. I readily admit I

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Addiction

Addiction 101: Analogy of the Driver’s Seat

DESIGNED BY UNSPLASH What do you think of when you hear the word “addict”? Often when I ask this question, I hear responses like weak, lazy, broken, drunk, homeless, selfish, loser.   In my years of treating clients with varying addictions, I have realized that those struggling with addiction are largely misunderstood. I have learned words

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7 Questions Your Therapist Doesn’t Want You to Ask
Therapy Tips

Seven Questions Your Therapist Doesn’t Want You to Ask

…but that the well-informed client will want to know DESIGNED BY FREEPIK Have you ever been asked an awkward question that you are unsure how to answer? Well, therapists get those all the time! So often, in fact, that I have spent time to compile my typical responses for when people are brave enough to

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